I’ve heard it before. I’m sure you have too.
“People just throw away wedding invitations.”
Of course, this makes my skin crawl. I mean, it’s like telling a dentist that your teeth are just going to fall out. Okay, maybe that’s a bit extreme.
But why are invitations singled out as the thing that people throw away after weddings? Is it because they are paper and that’s what most people do with any sort of paper product?
Here’s the thing: many things are thrown away from your wedding. Not just invitations. Flowers don’t last forever. They’re typically thrown away (unless they’re fake, which I’m not a big fan of). What about those rental items? The table clothes, vases, frames and decor…they’re not technically thrown away but you’re spending money on something you won’t have after your wedding. That cake you have in your budget? It’s going to be eaten. You’ll have one bite of your wedding cake when you cut it and it’s highly likely you won’t sit down again to have another bite. But that’s something that isn’t talked about.
I don’t want to bring down any other vendors or wedding items you budget for. That’s not the point of this. The point is that everyone feels there are certain things that are important for them for their wedding day. I’m lucky that my clients feel that invitations are important to them. And I agree that maybe invitations are thrown away (like so many other things), but they are important.
“If you feel invitations are important or not, I really hope you feel your marriage is the most important thing you are investing in on your wedding day and the rest of your life. “
Invitations are one of the only things that your guests actually receive from you from your big day. They are sent an invitation that is addressed to them, it tells them what they need to know for your wedding day and sets the tone of the day. Is it going to be elegant? Classy? Fun and casual? Your invite tells them that, if you think about that or not.
Invitations are the only thing from your wedding that get it’s own spotlight. Invites are sent in the mail two months before your wedding and that gives your guests two months to oooh and aaah over them. When they get to your wedding, they see everything else…the flowers, the dress, the decor, the food….all at once. I have so many couples tell me they get so many compliments on their invitations. Of course they do. They have their own moment to shine as well as the days leading up to your wedding.
Ultimately, there is one thing that is still there after your wedding day. And that’s your marriage. Ah…the point of all of this planning, right? If you feel invitations are important or not, I really hope you feel your marriage is the most important thing you are investing in on your wedding day and the rest of your life.
Because that is something that shouldn’t be thrown away.